Are You Winning? 4 Ways to Deal with Change

Posted on March 5, 2013 by Keith Sanders No Comments



How do you see change?

In your opinion, is it a good thing?

Are you able to keep a positive perspective even if you perceive change to be painful?

We do not control the events in our lives, but we do control our response to the events in our lives.  That is a huge power that each of us possesses, but we don’t always use.  For some, it is much easier to focus on the circumstances that landed us in hot water, rather than the choices we made to get there.  Put another way: some would prefer to claim the victim role, and blame other people for their own lack of success, while others will always choose to be the victor, accepting responsibility for their success, or lack of it.

There are four concepts to keep in mind when learning to deal with change:

1.)     Stay focused on what is important.

If the change in your life has been as a result of company decisions or cutbacks, use this as an opportunity for goal-setting and training.  Choosing to make yourself more valuable to your company should always be a priority, but especially when your group may be looking to eliminate the most “disposable” positions.

“Whether you’ve been downsized or are initiating your job change, now is the time to stop and re-assess what you’d really like in your next career move. Take this time to think through what you must have, would like to have, and what would be ‘icing” on the cake,” says Angie Horn, president of Nashville-based Catalyst, a firm that provides outplacement assistance and executive coaching.  “Also, a positive attitude is the most important tool in the job search process.”

2.)     Maintain a positive outlook.

Not many blessings come our way when we choose to curse everyone and everything around us.  Because we control our response, we heavily influence our outcome.  So, it almost goes without saying, the more negative our response to events, the more negative our outcome is likely to be.  However, the more positive one’s response, the more one can expect an outcome that is positive.  This is a relatively simplistic way of describing the concepts in “The Secret.”  The popular book and video is a recounting of the Law of Attraction, which states we tend to attract the people, events and material things into our lives that we focus on most.

Another way to stay focused on the positive is to look at the “big picture,” to better understand why the change happened, or is necessary.  This may likely take away the feeling that the change is directed toward you and is, in some way, “personal.”

3.)     Realize the need for change.

Confucius said, “They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.”  We absolutely must come to the understanding that if we are not changing, we are not growing.  And, if we are not changing, we are not standing still, but (because the world around us is changing) we are actually falling further and further behind.  There is an abundance of new information around us every day that can help us become more intelligent, more attractive, more popular, and more wealthy.  But, if one is not willing to change, out of fear, doubt or uncertainty, then one will not be motivated to even take in any of that new information and could suffer as a result.

4.)     Commit yourself to winning!

Each day, ask yourself what you are doing to make yourself better, not only for the sake of your relationships, but for your own growth.  Have you really decided you want progress in your life, or have you reached a point where you are comfortable?  If you are in the latter group, make sure it’s not because you have given up.  Winning means continuing to move forward with your action plan when nay-sayers proclaim it cannot be done.  Many people stop trying when the going gets tough, and try to convince themselves they are happy with what they have.  All the while, deep down, knowing they would like to be doing more, having more and being more.

So, when you hear the news about layoffs, the stock market and how fearful we should be about the economy, are you joining the whiners?  Or, the winners?

Comment on your best practices for dealing with change by clicking the comments link at the top of the page.

Take the “No Excuses” Pledge!

Keith Sanders

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